Sometimes its difficult to be as open and honest with my partner as
Id like to be, about hidden sexual desires I have. Maybe I have a fetish that
Im afraid my SO will consider "perverted", or find myself having an erotic
response to thoughts of group sex, or swapping. I may feel safer just keeping such
feelings to myself, instead of risking a horrified or other difficult reaction from my SO.
It may help me to remember that thoughts are not choices. For example, I may
have fantasized about being the comic book hero Superman or Superwoman, but didnt
make the choice of leaping off a tall building.
Talking about such issues, and listening to my partners feelings and
thoughts about them, gives us both a chance to explore our belief systems, and gain from
each others insights and point of view. For instance, if I have a tickling fetish,
talking about it gives my partner the freedom to ask questions, and get a better
understanding of any fears they have, as well as what makes me tick. It isnt
necessary that my SO share my beliefs or values, in order for us to get a better
understanding of each other.
Just for Today
Today, Ill share some small thing about me with my partner, that
Ive been afraid to let out in the open. Ill ask my SO to talk about any
concerns they have about my revelation, and listen to see what I can learn from their
Were more likely to feel the pain of the thorns, when
we keep a rose in the dark. - BH
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