Sometimes I feel angry over something my SO has done, but hold my
anger in because I feel its a negative emotion. In the past, Ive likely had
many experiences where Ive seen that anger has hurt someone, or only made a
difficult situation even worse.
Yet, I seem to be caught between a rock and a hard place, because I probably
also find that Im unable to get rid of my resentments, and one day they just seem to
explode like a volcano, or drag me down into depression.
Maybe my body has a good comparison that I can learn from. For example, the
air I exhale isnt "good" for me, but the only way to let "good"
air in is to breathe the "bad" air out. Do I exhale on my partner? No, of course
not - it would aggravate them pretty quickly if I did. Maybe I can do the same with anger.
I can let it out into the air, in privacy if I need to, by yelling or cursing what
Im angry about. When I "exhale" my anger this way, it makes room inside
for a breath of fresh air to enter my "emotional" body. I feel better, and
likely discover Im able to discuss problems with more genuine caring, and calmness.
Just for Today
Today, Ill let out any anger I feel by picturing myself exhaling.
Ill feel my anger in a safe place - privately if I need to - and remind myself that
thinking about my anger without letting it out, is about as useful as thinking about
breathing without exhaling!
Even the wind has to roar sometimes before it can become a
gentle breeze. - BH
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