There may be times when my
partner seems withdrawn, down in the dumps, or downright depressed. At such times, it may
feel as if an impenetrable wall goes up between us, with my efforts to cheer them up or
communicate with them making little headway.
It may help me to remember times when I felt sick with the flu, or
preoccupied with something that got me down more than usual. During those moments, I
likely felt that even the smallest "normal" things took more energy than I had,
or wanted to give. Do I feel like talking a lot when I have the flu? Likely not; what I
probably want most when Im feeling under the weather is a chance to recharge, to
rest, and take a break from many of the small and large demands on my brain and body.
A "bug" doesnt always have to be virus. Sometimes it can
be depressing feelings that are triggered by a stressful situation, or something that
doesnt make sense until after Im "well" again. Maybe the best thing
I can do is give my SO the time they need to recharge, and simply let them know that
Im ready and willing to help them in that process, if they want my help.
Just for Today
Today, if my partner is down or depressed, Ill let them know that
they dont have to "hurry up and get better" for me. Ill remind them
that I am willing to help if they want my help, but its also okay if they
dont. Ill give them the time and space they need to get through their struggle
in the ways they need to.
The last thing we need when were
down in the dumps, is to have more garbage piled on us. - BH
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