Do I sometimes feel jealous
or angry when my SO goes out for the night with 'the guys/girls'. What are they doing out
there? How dare they be happy outside of our relationship without ME.
When thoughts like this occur, it helps me to remember that I too have
outside interests that I enjoy. Maybe it's biking, dancing, billiards, writing, scuba
diving, taking classes or any number of activities that I do with others or alone. These
activities can help to relieve the stress of everyday life as well as help me to learn
more about myself and others in the process. Why would I want to deprive my SO of these
same valuable results?
Besides, the insights we gain from outside interests can lead to
wonderful new topics of conversation, in-depth sharing, and maybe a new understanding and
appreciation between us. I can celebrate our time apart as well as our time together.
Just for Today
Today Ill notice and rejoice in the gems I receive from activities
outside my relationship, and Ill remember them the next time I feel upset about my
SO spending time without me. Maybe Ill even start a conversation with my SO in which
we each share our gems after spending time apart.
He who lives inside small envelope rarely
get to lick the stamp. - klc
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