There are probably days in our
relationship when I feel very frustrated at the seeming lack of progress in struggles me
and my SO are having.
Maybe Ive talked about a problem til Im blue in the face, or
my partner has promised an important change, only to go right back to the way things were
before. Perhaps there are many days when I feel like throwing my hands in the air and
exclaiming "whats the use!"
Have I ever tried to fix something, such as an appliance, and spent
hours in similar frustration? Have there been times when I actually made things worse with
that appliance in trying to fix it? And have their been times when I finally did manage to
fix it, and the next time it broke, found that repairing it again required much less time
- because I had a much better understanding of how it worked?
Maybe my attempts to fix things in our relationship follow similar
principles. None of us were born with a relationship manual imprinted in our head. Almost
everything we learn comes from listening to and watching others, and our own trial and
error efforts. Like fixing anything, the more we learn what we need from others, the
quicker we are likely to find solutions that work.
Just for Today
Today, instead of trying to force solutions to happen in my time
schedule, Ill take slow progress as a sign that I need to reach out and learn more
about our types of problems from others.