Do I ever hear the words "you just don't understand" from my partner during a discussion or argument? Likely I have. It's a human tendency to jump in with my thoughts and views when I think I've heard enough. Often however, doing so tends to make us both more frustrated, as I try to convince my SO of my rightness.
There is a saying that "God gave me two ears, and one mouth, so that I might listen twice as much as I speak". When I talk with my partner, how much listening do I really do? Do I use my voice to ask more questions so I can understand my partner better, or do I mistakenly believe I know my SO so well that I'm the one who should do most of the talking?
The more I listen and learn, the more likely I'll find out things that help me understand our problems. I'll also be pleasantly surprised to see how my example rubs off onto my SO, as they begin to listen to me in ways I thought were impossible. I'll probably find wonderful things happening as a result - our acceptance of each other grows, as we discover the real reasons behind our frustrations.
Just for Today
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