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May 28

   It's easy to get so caught up in our relationship, that I start to shut myself off from contact with family and friends. Maybe I believe that eventually I'll be able to find solutions to our biggest problems, and get back to spending time with others. One day though, I wake up and realize I've shut myself off from much of my old world for too long, and my inner tears start flowing at the loss.
   It's natural to blame myself or our relationship when this happens, but such experiences aren't uncommon. I've been caught up in the belief that I can solve most problems just by devoting enough time to them, when in actuality I lessened my ability to handle them by focussing too much on them. A comparison would be like trying to weed a garden non-stop for days, without taking time to rest and eat.
   It's never too late to re-establish friendships and ties with family. As I do so, I'll probably find my disposition improves, and so does my ability to handle challenges in our relationship.

Just for Today
   Today, if I've shut myself off from friends and family, I'll take a few moments and think about how they've added joyous memories to my life.
   Although my relationship with my SO is important, I don't need to let it rule my life. I'll do what's best for me, knowing that the happier I am, the more I can handle whatever challenges our relationship contains.

Life is made up of small pleasures. Happiness is made up of those tiny successes--the big ones come too infrequently. If you don't have all of those zillions of tiny successes, the big ones don't mean anything. - Norman Lear


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