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May 26

   Sometimes I argue with my SO over an issue, and we spend hours trying to convince each other that our viewpoint is the more realistic one.
   My SO says one thing, and then I respond "but....." - and then tell them my viewpoint, and try to convince them that it's better. The discussion seesaws back and forth, often reaching a stalemate when one or the other refuses to budge any further.
   When two people disagree however, usually each one holds some part of the truth. If I can start finding and agreeing with the truth in my partner's statements, I'll find my viewpoint expanding as a natural result. In doing so, my partner will likely feel encouraged to tell me more about their feelings and thoughts.
   As I listen, I discover that my own experiences and knowledge are never enough to give me the whole picture in any situation. By combining my partner's insight with mine, and supporting their right to have their own views, I help build an atmosphere of cooperation, rather than confrontation.

Just for Today
   Today I'll seek the truth in what my SO says and acknowledge it. I can't see the whole truth of a difficulty I have with them until I do so.
   In listening, I'll learn much more than I will by talking. As I see more of the whole truth, solutions I didn't see before will appear almost magically to both of us..

Truth, after all, wears a different face to everybody, and it would be too tedious to wait till all were agreed.


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