Imagine swatting a porcupine with your bare hands. Who would hurt more?
When I hurt someone, I hurt myself just as much. Unlike swatting a porcupine, often the harm that I do to myself isn't as obvious. It may show up in ways that seem unconnected to my original action, and it may not come back to me until much, much later.
Yet if I take a close look at those actions, I can see ways that I do hurt myself that maybe I never realized before. I say unkind words to someone, and the bitterness of what I say poisons me; I lie to my partner, and this prevents me from getting genuinely close to them; I judge my SO for a certain fault, and then have to spend extra energy to maintain my standards of perfection.
Treating my SO with love, compassion, and understanding is not something I need to do for them, as much as I need to do it for myself. When I treat someone else well, I treat myself just as well. Being kind to others is one of the best gifts I can give to myself.
Just for Today
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