If I counted the number of times I kicked my butt over choices I regretted, I'd probably have to seek medical attention for the bruises on my behind.
Many of us kick ourselves for things that are simply human. I kick my butt for making mistakes; not seeing things others saw; not listening to my intuition; having other people upset with me; putting myself last; repeating a mistake I thought I had already learned from; and so on.
Maybe I do this because I've learned to expect punishment whenever I fall short of others' expectations, and that I "should" feel bad when I fall short of my own. But if love includes acceptance, have I really been treated with love when I was treated that way?
All of my choices have natural consequences - some are consequences that I like, and there are others I don't. If I accept this, I can start letting go of my habit of self-punishment. I'm only human. In doing so, I'll probably find my disposition improves dramatically, and my outlook on our relationship and my life gets better too.
Just for Today
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