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May 19

   When I remember doing schoolwork as a child, I probably recall times when I threw up my hands in despair, exclaiming "I'll never be able to learn this stuff". Maybe I didn't get the exact results that I wanted, but when I stuck with it, I often found to my surprise that I did end up understanding enough of it to complete the grade.
   In our relationship, I may find myself facing the same despair at times. No matter how hard I try and understand my partner, I just can't seem to put the pieces together in ways that make sense.
   If I give up as in schoolwork, I'll be assured of remaining in the dark. The truth is that I find some things extremely difficult to learn, while others I master easily. To learn the difficult things requires commitment - a resolve to hang with the challenge, and get others help when I feel stuck. Such commitment might not give me the results I want, but it always helps me increase my knowledge and understanding.
   Learning more about my partner's thoughts and feelings may be among the most difficult "homework" I've ever had, but ultimately I know it will also be the most rewarding!

Just for Today
   Do I give up trying to understand my partner at times, or do I "hang with it" because I know I'll gain in increased knowledge and understanding?
   Today I'll commit myself to learning just one new thing about my SO, by asking them about something I'm curious about, and listening to them without judgement.

My son, observe the postage stamp! Its usefulness depends upon its ability to stick to one thing until it gets there. - Henry Wheeler Shaw


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