If I feel sometimes like I'm in a prison, or wearing handcuffs, maybe it's time to stop and ask "who has the keys?" Maybe our relationship has a number of "should's", and "must's" in it - obligations that I feel a duty to fulfill.
Where's the rule book for these obligations? If they're something I've chosen to accept as "must", then my acceptance doesn't make me a victim, as much as a volunteer.
Do I say yes to sex because I feel obligated, or by free choice? Do I accept restrictions on my choices from my partner because I feel there are unwritten rules governing what I should or shouldn't do?
When I feel caged up, it might be time to look closely at what I'm doing that allows unwritten rules to run my life. If I realize I've always been free to accept or reject such rules, I can give myself more freedom to make choices that feel truly loving for me, and my partner.
Just for Today
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