How possessive am I of my partner? At a party, do I constantly check on them to make sure they aren't having too good a time, or talking to someone who may be more attractive or charming than I am? Do I feel pangs of jealousy whenever they seem to talk too warmly to someone of my gender?
Romantic literature abounds with stories of jealous lovers who exact their revenge on others because of the apparent betrayal of their "deep, passionate love". But is jealousy really part of love?
When I feel jealous, underneath I'm usually afraid. I dread being hurt or rejected if my partner found someone "better" than me, whether in looks, sexuality, charm, humour, or any other trait I feel important.
What such feelings do however is imprison me. I live in constant fear that my SO will eventually leave me, and my signs of love often become desperate attempts to prevent that from happening.
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