Arguments are often like mud fights - the longer they go on, the messier everything gets, and the harder it gets to see anything clearly.
When I "discuss" issues with my SO, do my conversations sometimes turn into mud fights, with each trying to score a "hit" on each other, until one finally loses, and the other wins?
There's a saying that if one person loses in a relationship, no one wins. If I bring up my partners misdeeds and faults to try and convince them how much they hurt me, all I'm doing is slinging mud, with the strange hope that if it hits them in the eyes, they can see my side better.
If I really want to clear the air, and have my partner understand how I feel, I can set a clear example. By encouraging them to speak freely, without me defending myself or rebuking them, I can help build a real spirit of love and conciliation. Maybe we'll discover that both our actions were less than perfect, once we truly listen to each other's thought and feelings.
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