Many of us try to figure out solutions
to our relationship problems on our own. We stew about
something that is bothering us, and then come up with a
solutions we think are "right", but often end
up with more frustration.
Am I handling our problems the same
way? If I am, most likely I'm not having much success.
Maybe I'd get further by reaching out.
When I talk my difficulties out with
others, often I get new insight just by hearing my own
words. I also improve my chances of finding solutions if
I search out the insight of others who have special
knowledge, or experience.
Usually it helps simply to know that
I'm not alone. Even when I don't have someone handy to
talk to, a good book on relationships or love can help me
see that there are others who have struggled with the
same things. When I do talk to my SO about a particular
problem, I'm able to do so with less fear my feelings may
be stupid, or rare.
Just for Today
Am I puzzling over a particular problem
in our relationship?
Today I'll try to find someone
trustworthy to share my feelings and thoughts with, and
see what new insights appear. Or I'll search out books,
or other sources of insight, to help me get the
reassurance I'm not alone in handling this.
The better I feel about myself and the
more insight I have, the easier it will be to solve
problems, instead of making new ones.
A problem shared, is often a
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