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March 29

   At times, I may moan or complain to others about what is wrong within our relationship. Yet when a friend tries to give me a helpful suggestion, I find myself responding "oh, that won't work, because..". Have I ever used any of the following excuses?
   Examples: I tried it already, and it didn't work; I couldn't handle doing that; you gotta be crazy; ummmmm, I don't know; it's not up to me, it's up to them; why should I change? they're the one with the problem; it's hopeless, I just gotta put up with it I guess; I don't have the time to try that, I have too much to handle as it is; and so on.
   When I complain and refuse to do the work I need to find real solutions, it may be time to look at whether my attitude is helping me, or hurting me. I may fear what might happen if I try new ways of handling things. But as long as I adopt the attitude "the hell I know is better than the heaven I don't", I know nothing is likely to change.
   As long as I make excuses, I doom myself to more misery. It's okay for me to make mistakes in trying out new things; that's the nature of learning. I don't have to solve problems to work on them; all I can ever do, is the best I can do. That is always good enough.

Just for Today
   Today I'll give some thought to problems I've been facing, look at any excuses I've been making, and ask myself "what's really stopping me from finding solutions?" If I focus on putting in the effort I need to, the results will take care of themselves. The results may not be as good as I'd like them to be, but they'll always be better than nothing.

No one ever accomplished anything on excuses.


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