At times, I may moan or complain to others about what is wrong within our relationship. Yet when a friend tries to give me a helpful suggestion, I find myself responding "oh, that won't work, because..". Have I ever used any of the following excuses?
Examples: I tried it already, and it didn't work; I couldn't handle doing that; you gotta be crazy; ummmmm, I don't know; it's not up to me, it's up to them; why should I change? they're the one with the problem; it's hopeless, I just gotta put up with it I guess; I don't have the time to try that, I have too much to handle as it is; and so on.
When I complain and refuse to do the work I need to find real solutions, it may be time to look at whether my attitude is helping me, or hurting me. I may fear what might happen if I try new ways of handling things. But as long as I adopt the attitude "the hell I know is better than the heaven I don't", I know nothing is likely to change.
As long as I make excuses, I doom myself to more misery. It's okay for me to make mistakes in trying out new things; that's the nature of learning. I don't have to solve problems to work on them; all I can ever do, is the best I can do. That is always good enough.
Just for Today
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