There are times in my life when it seems I've had to make a choice between "friendship", and "doing the right thing". For example, I'm having a party with friends, and one of them decides to have sex with someone other than their absent partner. Or everyone is drinking, and the rest of the crowd decides to go for a joyride around town, even though none of them is fit to drive.
I sometimes think about how horrified my SO would be if they discovered I participated in something that others were having a lot of fun at, but I felt was clearly wrong. Sometimes though I feel like a caged animal, and it's hard not to follow the crowd.
Whatever my SO may feel about my choices, ultimately it's my own values that would trouble me the most. No one has the right to tell me what is right or wrong for me, except for myself. But if I make my choices out of a sense of rebellion, or without clear and careful thought, or because everyone else is doing it, I may find myself choosing "easy" values that end up hurting myself most, and damaging our relationship unnecessarily.
Just for Today
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