Most of us want to eventually get
married and have children of our own. Many see having
babies as an important part of their happiness, and
likely have many images inside of how parenthood will be,
and the joys it will bring them.
Yet if I look back to my own childhood,
I can probably see many times when I felt like a burden
to my parents, or a source of anger, frustration, or
disappointment. Are these the kind of memories I want to
give my own children?
Often, children are the lightening rods
for difficulties that really have nothing to do with the
child. A parent that's angry at their spouse can explode
in rage at a child for something inconsequential; parents
that feel like a failure in their marriage will often
hold their children up to exacting standards to give the
parents a sense of self-esteem.
If I want to give my children the best
I can offer, then I have to take a look at what I
actually have to give them. Do I practice openness,
patience, tolerance, acceptance, kindness in our
relationship right now? The only things I can ever give,
are things I actually have.
Just for Today
Today I'll give some thought to whether
children will be a part of our future, and ask myself
what I want to give them? If it's love, happiness, and a
belief in themselves, then the only way I can give them
those things is to own them myself.
The most important thing a father can
do for his children is to love their mother. - Anonymous
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