I often look at what I'd like my
partner to change, especially when I find myself unhappy
with our relationship. Sometimes in trying to get such
changes to happen, I use ultimatums or sullen withdrawal,
or withhold something I know is important to my SO.
But have I looked at how I feel
when they try to get me to change in the same way? Maybe
they're quite aware of many problems they have, but find
my pressure makes it difficult for them to work on
solutions. Or perhaps they're afraid that whatever
changes they can make won't be good enough or fast
enough for me.
Looking at the changes I've made in my
life, I can probably see the ones that had the most
good feelings were the ones that were the easiest to
make, and the longest lasting.
Maybe if I change my efforts from
criticizing, and treat myself and my partner with more
and more acts of simple kindness, I would discover
rewards of real change in time - both in myself and in my
SO. After all, if I don't plant healthy seeds in a
garden, how can anything grow?
Just for Today
Today I'll try finding better ways to
give change a healthy and nurturing place to occur,
instead of trying to force changes I'd like to see in my
SO. If I let time take its natural course, I may be
pleasantly surprised to find little changes bring even
bigger rewards back to me.
Plant a kernel of wheat and you reap a pint; plant a pint
and you reap a bushel. Always the law works to give you
back more than you give. - Anthony Norvell
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