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March 15

   I often look at what I'd like my partner to change, especially when I find myself unhappy with our relationship. Sometimes in trying to get such changes to happen, I use ultimatums or sullen withdrawal, or withhold something I know is important to my SO.
   But have I looked at how I feel when they try to get me to change in the same way? Maybe they're quite aware of many problems they have, but find my pressure makes it difficult for them to work on solutions. Or perhaps they're afraid that whatever changes they can make won't be good enough or fast enough for me.
   Looking at the changes I've made in my life, I can probably see the ones that had the most good feelings were the ones that were the easiest to make, and the longest lasting.
   Maybe if I change my efforts from criticizing, and treat myself and my partner with more and more acts of simple kindness, I would discover rewards of real change in time - both in myself and in my SO. After all, if I don't plant healthy seeds in a garden, how can anything grow?

Just for Today
   Today I'll try finding better ways to give change a healthy and nurturing place to occur, instead of trying to force changes I'd like to see in my SO. If I let time take its natural course, I may be pleasantly surprised to find little changes bring even bigger rewards back to me.

Plant a kernel of wheat and you reap a pint; plant a pint and you reap a bushel. Always the law works to give you back more than you give. - Anthony Norvell


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