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March 1

   How much of my life is spent trying to please everybody but myself? I try to keep a clean house; I say "yes" when people ask me favors that I'd rather not do; I let out only "safe" feelings at times; I go along with what someone else says, even when I see things differently.
   Chances are, I carry this behavior over to my relationship, trying to find ways to please my partner and sacrificing my own needs and wants. What happens though is that often I don't get what I want in return, and I end up feeling resentment, or complain to others and myself about being used.
   My own needs are just as important as those of others. I can't control what other people's reactions to my choices will be; I can only control what choices I make. Other people may not be happy with them, but as long as I try to please them, I can almost guarantee I'll never be happy.

Just for Today
   My happiness doesn't depend on how much other people like my choices; it depends on how loving and good my choices are for me.
   Today I'll do my best not to hurt my SO by my choices, and when I do actually hurt my partner, I'll acknowledge it and make amends. Otherwise, whether or not a choice pleases my SO or others is up to them; letting them react in the way they want will be part of my loving choices.

I cannot give the formula for success, but I can give you the formula of failure - which is try to please everybody. - Herbert B. Swope

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