"Please, and thank you". How I may have hated being reminded to say these by grownups, as if I were obligated to repeat them every time I asked someone to help me, or I received something.
I may carry a similar sense of obligation over to our relationship at times, as if I would be an ogre if I didn't say the magic words often enough, or my partner wouldn't feel as valued.
Gratitude however is something I can do more for me than maybe I realized. When I say "thank you for such a wonderful present", it brings back the good feelings I got in receiving the present; it awakens my memories again and again, like going through a cherished photo album.
When I express gratitude out of some sense of obligation, what my SO gets is a recognition of their actions. If I express it because of the joy it reawakens inside me though, it gives my partner much more; they see the radiance on my face and can feel the joy they gave me. I give them a wonderful gift back, simply by letting myself experience such loving feelings.
Just for Today
Expressing gratitude is like putting candles on a birthday cake; it's a celebration of something nice that's happened. - BH
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