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June 3

   Some of us may have encountered a situation where our partner has become good friends with someone of the opposite sex. If that applies to me, I may find myself jealous and worried about it developing into an affair, or hurt when I see them treat their friend in ways I wish they treated me.
   My natural instinct is to try to get the third person out of our lives, and get my SO to see less of them. My partner may agree to do so to my face, but they could also find more sneaky ways of continuing their friendship.
   It may help me more to just take my focus off trying to control such a friendship. Instead, if I talk openly about my fears and feelings with my SO, I'll likely get a clearer picture of just how much my feelings are valued. I'll also get a chance to see how important honesty is in our relationship. If I'm able to be frank about my feelings, and encourage complete honesty from my SO about their feelings, we can discover new things about each other that will help us both make better choices.

Just for Today
   Do I feel anxious or scared about a friendship my partner has with someone of the opposite sex?
   Today I'll talk out any such feelings as best I can with my SO, and encourage them to do the same. By doing so, I can get a truer picture of our relationship, than if I focussed on trying to shut the other person out.

We turn to God for help when our foundations are shaking, only to learn that it is God who is shaking them." - Charles C. West


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