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June 25

   Do I ever have times in my relationship when I wonder if my SO loves me anymore, or whether I still love them? Maybe the rush of feelings I once had is no longer there, or I don't feel all warm and fuzzy inside anymore when they touch me.
   How do I know whether I love someone or not? Probably, I base it on whether I feel love for them. But is this really the way genuine love works?
   Maybe the real measure of love is not how I feel about someone, but how I treat them and whether my actions bring me joy or not. If my love for another person depends mostly on my choices, then I can give myself joyful feelings any time by treating them with love - including acceptance, kindness, and caring.
   The advantage of loving this way is that I'm no longer chained to my emotions. I can bring back all the warm, passionate, fuzzy feelings of love quite easily by doing simple loving acts for my partner, or others - such as a hug, a kind word, or an encouraging smile.

Just for Today
   When I don't feel love for my partner, it may be because I'm not treating them with love at the moment.
   Today I'll make loving choices first, and let the feelings take care of themselves. The more I practice doing this, the more likely I am to find out the powerful and magical effects such choices can have on my feelings.

Love is the willingness to extend oneself for the sake of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth. - M. Scott Peck

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