When I feel anger or some other uncomfortable emotion over something my partner said or did, I might be tempted to say "they made me feel that way".
But how can my SO "force" me to feel such an emotion? Would I go to prison if I didn't, or suffer some other dire consequence? Highly unlikely.
What I may mistakenly believe is that I can't help but feel a certain way when my partner makes a particular choice. "It's only natural", I exclaim, as if it would be abnormal if I reacted differently. The truth is that I'm able to feel any number of emotions for a particular action, depending on how I view it.
For example, if my SO responds to a hug by ignoring me and continuing to watch TV, it's easy to get angry and blame my anger on their rejection. If I think about it though, I can see that they're the ones losing the most. I can choose to feel compassion for them, knowing that no matter what feelings lead them to such a choice, they can't be comfortable or feel loving, as much as they try to disguise them.
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