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July 6

   Do I sometimes treat my partner like a child? If they forget to do something they promised, for example, do I scold them in some way, even if it's just subtly?
   I'm probably the first to admit that I'm imperfect, yet when it comes to my SO, I seem to have set ideas of which imperfections they're allowed to have.
   If we planned to go somewhere together, they're not "allowed" to be tired, and postpone it. If they are grumpy, they're allowed to be that way only when it doesn't get me down too.
   When I berate, criticize, or scold them about their behavior, I'm handing out medicine that can be worse than the "disease".
   How much more peace of mind would I get if I let them slip and slide in their own unique way, and let them learn naturally, from the normal consequences of their choices. If they are grumpy, for example, they'll discover soon enough that dwelling in it doesn't give them any happiness.

Just for Today
   Today, if I find myself tempted to criticize or scold my SO over some mistake or fault, I'll hold my tongue, and take a few moments of reflection. I'll think about how I would like to be treated if the shoe was on the other foot. With that new insight, I'll treat my partner in ways that remind them that it's ok to be human, and imperfect., and that my happiness doesn't depend on them meeting MY standards.

You can't hold someone down without staying down with them. - Booker T. Washington


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