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July 28

   One day a group of women were criticizing their husband's lack of help with housework. "Even when he helps with the laundry" said one, "I have to remind him of so many things, like keeping the whites separate. If I didn't, we'd probably all end up with pink underwear!'
   In the house next door, a group of men were doing much the same thing. "My wife offered to help me fix up the car the other day, but she couldn't change a tire without getting it on backwards!'
   Do I sometimes complain and wish my partner would help more with some responsibilities that seem to always fall on my shoulders? Maybe it's time to take some moments of reflection, and see if I have been discouraging them from doing just that, in ways I may not have realized.
   Correcting them, hovering over and watching, butting in, and continually pointing out the right way to do things may seem helpful at the time. But when I don't give them the dignity of learning in their own natural way, by trial and error and asking questions when they choose, then they will naturally get discouraged, and stick to things they know they are good at.

Just for Today
   Today I'll look at what responsibilities I'd like my partner to share more of, and ask them to pick one they'd like to tackle. Whatever they choose, I'll give them the complete freedom to handle it on their own, and hold my tongue when I'm tempted to point out their "mistakes".

If we were faultless we should not be so much annoyed by the defects of those with whom we associate. - Francois Fenelon

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