dates31.gif (1655 bytes)
.
July 27

   There have likely been times in our relationship where I felt I was clearly in the right, and my SO was clearly in the wrong. I probably felt anger, and frustration when my partner refused to admit their wrongdoing, or insensitivity, or other transgression. They knew better, I'd remind them. Or else I'd point out how mistaken they were, or ask them something like "what were you thinking?'
   If I had the chance to observe myself during such episodes, I might be shocked to see what my behavior is like. If I do even more,. and put myself in my SO's shoes during such times, I'll likely begin to feel the same type of inward flinches, and emotional walls coming that my SO probably experiences.
   Before I impose my view of the "truth" on my SO, it may help me to remember that I don't have a monopoly on truth, or reality. There likely have been many times in my life I felt I knew something beyond a doubt, only to discover that my beliefs were still a work in progress.

Just for Today
   Today I'll stop myself whenever I'm tempted to say or think "I'm right, you're wrong", and remind myself that my beliefs are still a work in progress. Instead of lecturing my SO, I'll ask them questions that will help me get a better understanding of truth, by seeing things from their point of view in addition to mine.

Believing ourselves to be possessors of absolute truth degrades us: we regard every person whose way of thinking is different from ours as a monster and a threat and by so doing turn our own selves into monsters and threats to our fellows. - Octavio Paz


@Copyright Bernd Hansen - Contents may be downloaded or copied for personal non-commercial use.