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July 25

   In most new relationships, sex often plays a big part of the time together. The passion is new, and the joys of discovering each other, and being close seem to grow each day. Eventually, however, real life seems to begin intruding, and sex dwindles off to become an infrequent and smaller part of the relationship.
   If this has happened with me and my SO, we may be discovering that we're still strangers in many ways. Worse, without the "safety" of sex, the time that we do spend together may show up more of our imperfections, and anxiety over not meeting our partner's needs or having them meet our own. But what are my partner's needs? And even more, what are my own?
   Chances are, the passion of good sex has made it easier to postpone looking at both of these questions. Instead of bemoaning the decrease of sex in our relationship, maybe I can welcome the change as an opportunity to get to know my SO better, and share more of who I am inside.
   I can also use the change to explore intimacy through non-sexual caressing and touching, reinforcing the safety my partner feels with me.

Just for Today
   Today, I'll explore just one new thing I cn do with my SO that doesn't rely on sex. The less pressure my SO feels to take care of my sexual pleasure, the more easily they'll be able to get in touch with all the wonderful feelings their body offers them. The same will hold true for my feelings.

He who binds himself to a joy, Does the winged life destroy; But he who kisses the joy as it flies, Lives in eternity's sunrise. - William Blake


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