I may at one time or another overheard other people talking behind my back about my relationship with my SO. Maybe they said unkind things about my partner, or were critical of the way I treated my SO, or put up with things.
Likely, their criticism stung. I may have questioned why I still stayed in the relationship. Maybe I felt stupid for not seeing things as "clearly" as my friends seemed to.
At times like this, it may help me to "consider the source". Were the gossipers in loving, caring relationships of their own? Very likely, closer introspection would tell me that they weren't; they had struggles of their own that they hadn't yet found solutions to. Would I take the opinion of a mechanic seriously, if they couldn't fix their own car? Not likely!
If I want truly helpful viewpoints, I'm much more likely to find them in talking to couples with caring, loving relationships, and in friends that value honesty, and dislike harmful gossip.
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