If someone asked me "what makes a good relationship", I'd likely have a fairly clear view of what I want in one. Maybe I believe that a good relationship has some or all of the following: love, honesty, openness, respect, acceptance, equal sharing of responsibilities, kindness, shared interests and values, and so on.
If I asked my partner the same question, I might be surprised that they share many of the same beliefs. If so, why do we seem to be such a world apart at times?
One word that we may have unintentionally added to that list was "obligation". Often, it's unspoken. When I "should" be as loving or open, or have the shared interests my SO thinks I should have - or vice versa - the relationship loses the spirit of all the good things on the list, and becomes a cage of "shoulds".
Just for Today
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