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July 14

   I may have heard a friend make the following suggestion: "try working on yourself", when I've shared struggles I'm having with my SO. This advice may have puzzled me. What good is working on myself, when it's my partner that's causing the problem?
   Yet, if I really take a close look at how much energy and turmoil I'm expending over my SO's "problems", I may start seeing that my reactions often leave something to be desired.
   If my own efforts at trying to change my SO aren't giving me the results I want, maybe it's time to start taking a closer look at me, and see what improvements I can make there. The only person I can really change is myself.
   Deep down, I may realize this, yet still hesitate in taking the first step of joining a support group, or seeking therapy, or committing to other methods of self-discovery. Maybe I want to wait until "things get better", so that I can focus more easily on myself.
   Time has a way of bringing in new problems to replace the ones we just solved though. A year from now I can either have more self-awareness, happiness, and calm in my life. Or a year from now, I can still be saying "someday, I'll start".

Just for Today
   Today, I'll remind myself that this is my life, and likely the only one I'll have. I only have so many years to find out what kinds of things bring me happiness, and what kinds of things bring me more turmoil.

A year from now you may wish you had started today.


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