At many wedding ceremonies, I
often hear about the need for each marriage partner to
"make" each other happy. Yet do I really have
the power or ability to do so?
Have I tried to do something I
felt would bring happiness to my SO's life, and have it
fall miserably short, or backfire? Perhaps I decided to
buy them a present, only to find I misunderstood what
they really wanted. Or I tried to be cheerful to them,
only to be rebuked by a scowl or some other letdown.
If I really think about it, my
SO's moods and happiness are really their choice.
Sure, I can treat them with kindness, and try to
make choices that encourage and support their happiness,
but beyond that, how they feel is really beyond my
control. I'm only responsible for making the best choices
I can; after that, whether they are happy or not is up to
Just for Today
Abe Lincoln once said that
"people are as happy as they chose to be". When
I look around me, there are many ways I can find
happiness at this moment, no matter what is
happening in my life right now. Am I looking at the glass
as half-full, or half-empty?
Today I'll start owning my ability
to be happy, so I can have more of it. I'll stop giving
others control over whether I'm happy or not, and make
choices that support my right to happiness.
When we cannot find contentment in
ourselves, it is useless to seek it elsewhere. - La
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