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January 9

   At many wedding ceremonies, I often hear about the need for each marriage partner to "make" each other happy. Yet do I really have the power or ability to do so?
   Have I tried to do something I felt would bring happiness to my SO's life, and have it fall miserably short, or backfire? Perhaps I decided to buy them a present, only to find I misunderstood what they really wanted. Or I tried to be cheerful to them, only to be rebuked by a scowl or some other letdown.
   If I really think about it, my SO's moods and happiness are really their choice. Sure, I can treat them with kindness, and try to make choices that encourage and support their happiness, but beyond that, how they feel is really beyond my control. I'm only responsible for making the best choices I can; after that, whether they are happy or not is up to them.

Just for Today
   Abe Lincoln once said that "people are as happy as they chose to be". When I look around me, there are many ways I can find happiness at this moment, no matter what is happening in my life right now. Am I looking at the glass as half-full, or half-empty?
   Today I'll start owning my ability to be happy, so I can have more of it. I'll stop giving others control over whether I'm happy or not, and make choices that support my right to happiness.

When we cannot find contentment in ourselves, it is useless to seek it elsewhere. - La Rochefouchauld


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