Sometimes I hear of other people
abusing their partner, and it makes me think of my
relationship. Do I ever feel abused - emotionally,
mentally, sexually, or physically? If so, have I tended
to deny it, or hope my SO would change their behavior?
Maybe it wasn't really abuse, I tell myself, or
maybe they'll change if I just love them enough, and be
careful not to provoke them.
If I truly haven't been abused, then
I'll know it by a calm, peaceful feeling inside when I
ask myself those questions. I also understand that hurt
feelings, and outbursts of anger and other strong
emotions are a normal part of being human.
But if I find myself "walking on
eggshells", or feeling physically or emotionally
unsafe, it may be time to take a serious look at whether
I'm accepting the unacceptable. Have I sought insight
from people I can trust, or have I kept my feelings
secret out of shame, because I felt I was even partly
Just for Today
Letting myself be continually hurt by
someone's actions is not a part of love. I may not know
what to do about it if it happens, but I'm not
responsible for my SO's choices if abuse occurs. It's my
responsibility to be good to myself, and find the answers
to help me protect myself
Today I'll stop denying the truth if
abuse is happening in my life, and begin seeking out the
insight I need to make the best choices for
Love is as love does. - M. Scott Peck
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