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January 30

"(Love)..endures all things"

   At first glance, there seems to be little difference between "bearing all things", and "enduring all things". But bearing is about the degree of frustration, hurt, or turmoil. Endurance speaks more of being able to bear such things over a period of time.
   For example, maybe my SO has said some very unkind words to me. I may bear the pain those words unleashed for a day or two, but finally, I can't stand it any longer; I explode, lashing out angrily with my own cutting words.
   How much endurance my love has relies on my willingness to hang in there for as long as it takes, to find the answers I'm looking for, and healthy solutions to difficulties I have with the relationship. Without such endurance, I can easily find myself quitting just before important insights appear.
   Enduring all things doesn't mean that I need to stay in a relationship that is clearly unhealthy for me. What it does mean is that I don't leave simply because I can't stand the turmoil anymore. I'm able to tolerate such feelings, until I find the lessons they are trying to bring me, and let them enrich me.

Just for Today
   Today, if I'm tempted to "jump ship", I'll remember that struggle and pain are often normal companions on worthwhile journeys. Even Columbus didn't make his great discovery without getting seasick first!

To endure is the first thing that a child ought to learn, and that which he will have the most need to know. - Jean Jacques Rousseau

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