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January 3

   When I look back on my relationship with my SO, I can remember days when the world seemed a perfect place to live in, the sun shone, and love felt so wonderful.
   There are days I wish I could bring back all those feelings and let go of my worries, my fears, and my anxieties. Sometimes I wonder why love seems like a roller coaster, with its unpredictable highs and lows.
   What was it about those days? Was it a feeling of being accepted and loved simply for who I was? And did my SO's faults seem trivial in comparison to all their wonderful qualities? I wonder at times what happened....did I change, or did our views of each other change, or both?
   So many questions; yet maybe I'm holding myself and my SO up to a standard of perfection that costs me much more than it gives me. Is it worth having less love to focus on their "defects" or mine? It's time to ask myself "how important are they?" Maybe my SO is just as afraid as I am about not measuring up. If so, that's taking away from their natural desire to love and to be loved, and to express it warmly, with caring.

Just for Today
   Today I'll try to accept one thing about my SO that I never really accepted before, knowing that the more I do so, the more love my relationship with them will bring me. Knowing that my attitude can make such an important difference is a wonderful discovery. It's no longer perfection I'm after, just simple acceptance, and the love that follows with it.

Every good thought you think is contributing its share to the ultimate result of your life. - Grenville Kleiser


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