"(Love)..does not seek it's own"
Everything we do in
relationships has some kind of payoff for us. Even when
we do "unselfish" things, it bolsters our image
of ourselves as kind, caring human beings.
If I've been trying to be
"unselfish" though, and still find myself
miserable, am I doomed to having to put up with such
thorns in the rose of love forever?
To "not seek it's own"
doesn't mean that it is unloving to take care of my own
needs. It is very difficult to be loving to my partner
when I am stressed out, down in the dumps, or frustrated
with my own lack of happiness.
It simply means that it is important to
my well being when I make choices that are good
for me and my partner, or others. If someone has
to lose, then likely so will I.
When we take into account what affect
choices will have on others, we become better aware of
what consequences our choices will have. If I take the
last piece of pie without considering my partner's
feelings, what I may find out later is that I lose out on
affection, and closeness over something that gave me only
When I make choices where I treat both
myself and my partner with love, everyone wins. It may be
difficult to do at times, but it is always
Just for Today
Today I'll remind myself that it's ok
for me to be selfish, when my selfishness helps me make
choices that are loving for both myself and my SO.
Loving choices may be difficult, but they always give me
back results with the most value.
Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
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