Although change is a normal part of any relationship, usually when I face impending changes I don't want, I become scared, anxious, and even angry at times.
I might be faced with the loss of a job, or moving to a new city, or coping with a major problem in our relationship. I fear what the future will bring, and I feel the pain of having to let go of things that I used as anchors.
If I talked to older couples that have gone through their own difficult changes, I might hear them refer to something they initially feared as the "best thing that ever happened to us".
In nature, loss is a normal part of growth. Each year trees lose their leaves, and regain new ones in the spring, growing taller and stronger in the process. My future will have its own challenges. Once I realize anchors can also weigh me down, I can start to look at change when it comes as a natural part of my life, and a pathway to future treasures.
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