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February 21

   When problems arise in our relationship that seem to leave major damage in their wake, I usually find myself agonizing again and again over the events that lead to my current despair.
   What does this accomplish? Sometimes it helps me get a better understanding of what went wrong, and what changes I need to make to ensure the same thing doesn't happen again. Most often though, I do it to keep a rush of deep pain from sweeping up and overwhelming me.
   I need to mourn my losses fully though. I need to take time, and feel the pain, and rant and rave, and scream and sob if and when I need to. Once I let it all out, I can finally gain new peace and understanding, almost automatically.
   If I dwell on the past however, I keep running the same scenes over and over again through my head, keeping myself miserable. What's done is done; I can handcuff myself to the past, or I can accept its lessons gratefully, and decide to make today a day all its own - one that doesn't have to contain chains to yesterday.

Just for Today
   Today, I'll take a close look at any hurt I'm feeling right now, and take time to let go of it the best I can, by allowing myself to feel it fully. When the day is over, I'll leave this day to go where it needs to be - in my memory, in the past. Each day deserves to be a new day.

When the tide of life turns against you
And the current upsets your boat
Don't waste tears on what might have been
Just lie on your back and float

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