In the television series Star Trek, one of the episodes had an exchange something like this - Computer: "How do you feel?" Spock: "I don't understand the question."
How often do I draw a blank when my SO asks me how I feel? Often, I haven't felt safe sharing my feelings in the past, and still find it hard to know sometimes what I'm feeling when I'm asked.
I know I need my thoughts to understand my emotions; but I also know I have to let myself feel them before I can understand them. Usually I have little problem identifying the "good" ones, such as joy, laughter, contentment, and so on. But I have real difficulty letting myself feel "bad" ones fully.
At such times, I have to remind myself that all my emotions are an important part of me. Even those emotions that have gotten a bad name - anger, jealousy, fear, anxiety, etc. - are trying to help me, not hurt me, by bringing something important to my attention.
When I accept that, I see that trying to shut down anger, and other uncomfortable emotions, also numbs many of the good ones. My emotions are a package deal, and that's okay. After all, rotten bananas sometimes make the best banana bread.
Just for Today
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