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February 15

   One of the classic tests to tell the difference between an optimist and a pessimist is to ask if a cup is half-full, or half-empty. I probably have moments each day when I'm either optimistic or pessimistic about something. Sometimes, it seems as if everything looks rosy, while other times all I see is a dark cloud.
   My viewpoint has one of the biggest effects on whether I have a good day or bad day. When I feel as if I'm in a swamp, all I seem to see is alligators.
   Chances are, many of the difficulties I've had in our relationship were worsened or improved simply through my state of mind. And usually I can trace my state of mind back to how good I was feeling about myself.
   The harder I am on myself, the harder it seems to find enlightening solutions to problems with my SO. Doesn't it make sense to look at what is bothering me about me, before I tackle problems with them?

Just for Today
   Today, if I get frustrated over a problem between me and my SO, I'll take a few moments and see whether I'm frustrated with myself as well.
   Likely I am. If so, I can begin to see that it is impossible for me to be happy with my partner, as long as I'm not happy with myself.
   In realizing this, I can start finding ways to treat myself with more compassion, love and kindness. In the simple act of accepting myself more, I may find many of my past frustrations evaporate steadily and magically on their own.

Most of the shadows of this life are caused by standing in one's own sunshine. - Ralph Waldo Emerson

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