One of the classic tests to tell the
difference between an optimist and a pessimist is to ask
if a cup is half-full, or half-empty. I probably have
moments each day when I'm either optimistic or
pessimistic about something. Sometimes, it seems as if
everything looks rosy, while other times all I see is a
My viewpoint has one of the
biggest effects on whether I have a good day or bad day.
When I feel as if I'm in a swamp, all I seem to see is
Chances are, many of the difficulties
I've had in our relationship were worsened or improved
simply through my state of mind. And usually I can trace
my state of mind back to how good I was feeling about myself.
The harder I am on myself, the harder
it seems to find enlightening solutions to problems with
my SO. Doesn't it make sense to look at what is bothering
me about me, before I tackle problems with them?
Just for Today
Today, if I get frustrated over a
problem between me and my SO, I'll take a few moments and
see whether I'm frustrated with myself as well.
Likely I am. If so, I can begin to see
that it is impossible for me to be happy with my
partner, as long as I'm not happy with myself.
In realizing this, I can start finding
ways to treat myself with more compassion, love and
kindness. In the simple act of accepting myself more, I
may find many of my past frustrations evaporate steadily
and magically on their own.
Most of the shadows of this life are caused by standing
in one's own sunshine. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
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