If I'm like most, I have moments when I seem to fall short in giving what I think my partner deserves. Maybe I try to make up for my shortcomings by making extra efforts in other areas. For example, I feel less intelligent than my partner, so I spend time and money trying to look more attractive. Or I feel like a klutz at cooking, so I pour my efforts into pampering my partner in other ways to compensate.
When I take an all-or-nothing approach to my talents, I end up depending more and more on my partner's praise, or other positive reactions, to boost my sense of self-worth. Unwittingly, I place increasing pressure on my SO to be weak in areas that I feel strong, and end up setting invisible boundaries that they dare not cross.
My talents are wonderful gifts to be explored, but I don't have to do everything well. Whatever I'm capable of is good enough. I may not know how to cook a gourmet meal, but I can certainly handle the salad. Or I may not know a hard disk from a slipped disk, but I can still write a letter on my computer.
Just for Today
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