When my SO says something unkind or hurtful to me, is my natural reaction one of trying to hurt them back in the same way, or using my words to judge them? Do I respond with phrases such as "youre one to talk", or "youre such a jerk (or crybaby)", or something similar?
Im allowed to be imperfect, including very imperfect. Its part of being human. Even if theres truth to something unkind my SO says, I have the power to accept it as simply part of being human. If my SO sees part of me as being some kind of monster, I dont have to look through their eyes. I can use my own.
The more I can accept myself in this way, the easier it becomes for me to choose how I want to feel in any argument. If I want to feel good about myself, there are few things that will envelope me in such a glow quicker than simple kindness. I can respond to cutting remarks with compassion, and such phrases as "I hear you", or "I can see that this is really bothering you", or a request for something as simple as a hug break!
Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless. - Mother Theresa
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