As much as I value honesty from my partner, I may find it very difficult at times to be honest with myself, especially concerning my own imperfections.
As a child, I probably learned well that many imperfections were "bad", and was punished for having them. As an adult, Ive likely carried this way of looking at my faults with me, and feel pain or anguish when I think about any "bad" parts of me.
How much of a difference hugs and understanding would have made during such times as a child, instead of harsh words. I may not be able to change the way I was treated as a child, but I do have the power to change the way I treat myself as an adult.
Instead of feeling bad about any of my faults, I can give myself hugs and acceptance. The more I do so, the easier it will be to become honest with myself about all my imperfections. I cant change something I want about myself, unless I have a true picture of what Im really trying to change. Self-honesty helps me get such a true picture. And the bonus is that, the more able I am to accept my own faults without feeling bad, the easier it becomes to accept those of my partner.
More people would learn from their mistakes if they weren't so busy denying they made them. - anonymous
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