If my SO has "wronged" me somehow in the past, I may have said I forgave them, or tried to, but am still feeling anger or hurt whenever I think about what they did.
What is it that makes some mistakes harder to forgive than others? Maybe its how I interpreted their motives. Maybe I thought their "mistake" showed a lack of caring or love for me.
But is it my SOs mistake, or my interpretation of it that keeps me trapped in my struggles to forgive? Perhaps I find it hard to accept that their "mistakes" are simply part of being human, even the big mistakes. If I look at my own experiences, I can probably see many times when I made a choice I later regretted, even though it seemed like the right one for me at the time I made it. When I use my hindsight, I often discover my mistake happened because I missed seeing something, or believed something that I found out later wasnt true. Or maybe my mind was clouded with emotions or thoughts that made thinking difficult.
Maybe my partners mistakes happened for the same kinds of reasons. Perhaps the problem wasnt that they didnt care enough about me, but simply that they were unable to clearly see what effects their choice would eventually have.
Just for Today
Forgiving is not forgetting. It's simply remembering in a different way. - anonymous
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