Sometimes I may get suggestions about our relationship that I dont understand as well as Id like. For example, my partner have a drinking problem, and someone tells me to join Al-anon, and learn to take care of myself. Or my SO has had an affair, and someone who has been through the same thing says "let go, give them freedom." Such answers dont make much sense to me, because it seems as if they dont do anything about the real "problem".
It may help me at such times to remember that I dont have to know how something works in order to use it to help me. For example, I may know next to nothing about how a TV works inside, yet that doesnt stop me from using it to entertain and educate myself.
Likewise, it isnt necessary for me to understand other peoples experience in order to benefit from it. Instead of asking "how could that possibly work?", maybe Im better off asking "how do I work on that?". If I see someone else getting positive results from using those suggestions, theres no reason I cant achieve the same, even if I dont understand why it works.
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Time makes more converts than reason. - Thomas Paine
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