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August 19

   
I may be tempted at times to "explain" to my partner how love and relationships are supposed to work. I may feel as if I’ve done more soul searching than they have, or been in more relationships, or somehow have more experience and knowledge than they do.
  Likely, if I try to do so, I may end up frustrated with their response. They may argue, or only half-listen, or become angry with me, or give me some other response I don’t like.
  How do I learn best? Do I learn more when I search for knowledge, or when it’s fed to me uninvited? And aren’t I the best judge of how much I can absorb at any given time?
  As much as I might want to share what I’ve learned with my SO, it may help me to remember that my example speaks louder than any words. As I apply my beliefs to my life and our relationship, my actions are listened to far more intently by my partner than any words I speak.

Just for Today
  Today, I’ll remind myself that my partner learns things in ways that are best for them, and in their own timetable. I’ll share my experiences, thoughts and feelings when they are willing to listen - not to "teach" them, but simply to give them a better understanding of who I am. If there’s something I hope they’ll learn, I’ll let my example be the book they can study from, if they wish.

The more you say, the less people remember. - Francois de Salignac de la Mothe Fenelon


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