Sometimes I look back on our relationship, and long for the days when my heart was filled with feelings of love and romance. I wonder what happened - did I change, did my SO change, or did we both change?
If I take some time to reflect, I may notice that - when our relationship was new - my partners faults seemed insignificant, and their strengths shone. How does that compare with the way I view them today?
Likely, Ill find that I have much more thoughts in a day over their imperfections. Things that seemed insignificant at one time seem to have a lot more power to irritate me now.
If acceptance is part of love, than its natural that my lessened acceptance of my partners faults reduces the amount of love I feel for them. Chances are, Im getting less acceptance of my imperfections from them as well, which reduces the love we both feel even more.
I have a choice. If I want to feel more love, I need to find ways to accept my SOs and my own imperfections in ways that bring me less frustration and resentment. It may not be easy, but if I value the kind of love we had before, it will certainly be a goal that gives me back what I want most.
Just for Today
Blow an icy wind towards others in a room, and youll soon feel colder yourself. - B. Hansen
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