August 12

Have I ever been advised by a friend to leave my SO, because I "deserved better"?
  It’s natural to take such advice more to heart when things are very difficult in our relationship. But if I really think about it, how much does anyone truly know about all the little and big things that make up a part of our relationship? If they were in my shoes, would they still think and feel the same way?
  While the insights and experiences of others can help me, ultimately my life is most affected by the choices I make. The more I let others advise me on what directions to take, the less experience I have in charting my own course. And I can learn from my "mistakes" unless I make them first.
  The next time I consider taking advice on something important in our relationship, I’ll take a step back, and look at what experience lies behind that advice. I’ll try to learn as much as I can about my friend’s experiences, and use the insight I get to help me make the decisions I need.

Just for Today
  Today, I’ll remind myself that my life, and my part in this relationship, is based on my choices. Advice, like a verbal contract, usually isn’t worth the paper it’s written on. When someone offers me advice, I’ll try to get them to talk about their experiences and insights about their own relationship. I’ll take what feels helpful, and leave the rest.

Sometimes one pays most for the things one gets for nothing. - Albert Einstein

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