With all the domestic violence I read
about these days, sometimes I feel as if anger should be
outlawed in marriages, if not in society as a whole.
In my own relationship, I've had times
when I got angry and may have said something I later
regretted. There were other times when my SO may have
gotten angry, and did or said something that hurt.
Anger is a very natural emotion, and
when used constructively, it becomes a powerful tool for
positive change. Unless I've experienced such use of
anger in my life however, I'm likely very wary of it, and
downright afraid of it at times.
When I'm angry at my SO, it may be a
good time to find new ways of getting my anger to work
for me. By being aware of the damage that anger can do, I
can look for better ways of handling it. For example,
beating a pillow, going for a brisk walk, writing down my
feelings, or yelling out how I feel in a safe place, are
all things I can do to get in touch with my anger. In
doing so, I'll get greater insight as to why I'm angry,
and see what I need to do to protect myself from hurt
Just for Today
When I get angry about something in our
relationship, I'll remind myself that anger can be
constructive, and not necessarily destructive.
Today I'll experiment with different
ways of expressing my anger safely, and let it work for me.
I'll try to let it bring me to insights that help me
improve my life, and the quality of our relationship.
Anger is just one letter short of danger.
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