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April 28

   I've probably heard the expression "I wear my emotions on my sleeve". Usually this person doesn't hold their feelings in, and is vocal about saying what's on their mind as soon as it pops into their head.
   While this may have some advantages, when I do the same, I find out that my first impression of a situation is often off the mark. My SO has a suspicious motel receipt in their pocket, so I immediately accuse them of having an affair. I see a high-priced item that captures my heart, so I rush and buy it, because it's only one small payment a month. A friend asks me for a $100 loan, so I write them a cheque, as if my budget will automatically readjust itself. When my SO gets angry because there's not enough money left to pay the rent, I defend myself by saying "well, you'd have done it if it was your friend!".
   When I act without thinking carefully about the consequences of my actions, the consequences may often not be ones I like.

Just for Today
   Have I have been busy defending or justifying my quick emotions to my SO?
   Today I'll look at how much thought I've been putting into what I say or do. Such thought can benefit me and our relationship in immeasurable ways. I can still have my feelings and my thoughts, and still express them, except now I'll have the benefit of more insight.

So many people confine their exercise to jumping to conclusions, running up bills, stretching the truth, bending over backward, lying down on the job, sidestepping responsibility and pushing their luck


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